Today’s newspaper has a “Holiday Survival” article– it has good advice, yet I take issue with the use of the word survival. The year-end season is not a hardship to endure; rather, it is a gift. Parenting twins or more keeps you busy every month of the year. This month, as with any month, prioritize what is truly important and enjoy the spirit of the season without overwhelming yourself or your children. Despite various family, social and religious events, you are in control of your schedule for the most part.
Embrace your most treasured traditions (such as an afternoon spent decorating cookies with your kids or taking the family to see glorious outdoor light displays) and make time for these experiences by saying ‘no’ to items lower on your priority list. You can’t do it all. Realistic expectations for the holidays, especially when your twins are young, can help maintain some serenity. Traditions from years past can be re-evaluated as well– hosting family or friends at your home may be simpler than packing and traveling with a crew of young children.
The concept of saying ‘no’ may be difficult for many of us, but we often need a reminder that we have permission do so. We owe it to ourselves and to our children. Your infant twins cannot speak up for themselves, so you need to be their proactive advocate– if you avoid over-scheduling, you’ll prevent meltdowns, illnesses, and behavioral setbacks. I am not endorsing the life of a hermit who declines all outside invitations– rather, I am suggesting balance in how you spend your precious family time.
Ultimately, keep in mind that your twins’ early years are fleeting. Accommodating the needs of young twins is a temporary situation that will be just a blip on the radar screen over the course of your lives. Streamline your days this month to enjoy each member of your family, your traditions, and the true peaceful spirit of the season.
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